“Can you imagine us years from today
Sharing a park bench quietly?
How terribly strange to be seventy

Old friends, memory brushes the same years
Silently sharing the same fears

Time it was, and what a time it was, it was
A time of innocence, a time of confidences
Long ago, it must be, I have a photograph
Preserve your memories, they’re all that’s left you.”

SIMON AND GARFUNKEL, Old Friends/Bookends

One of my best friends, Steve, and his family have now moved back to Southern California. He now lives just a few minutes from one of my other best friends Rosa, which worked out today as I was hoping to make a double visit. We live two hours away, but what’s a bit of a drive for old friends? My husband and kiddos and I passed the time listening to good music (Fleetwood Mac, Cat Stevens, Paul Simon’s Graceland, etc), and we had a chance to talk about our mutual passions: music history, Google Glass, reality perception, etc. Time in the car with him always seems to zoom by, and the kiddos were great. After last summer’s road trip to Pennsylvania and back, a few hours feels fairly breezy!

I still remember meeting Steve for the first time at an Academic Decathlon meeting in Mr. May’s room in high school. At heart, I think we’ve always had a very similar temperament in many ways which is why we get on so well. After living in New York and in the Bay Area, Steve and Carol are now in the Los Angeles area for awhile. I am already thinking about all the playdates and field trips we might share with their kiddos…


Bill and my babies walking to Steve’s house….Katie is giving Eric’s hand a kiss.


Steve’s front door


Visiting at Rosa’s house after lunch…I love how Katie and Abby are showing something to Carol. I still remember meeting Carol for the first time, and now she is so much a part of our ever-growing group of spouses and children. Katie loved watching out for Abby and playing with her and Alex at Rosa’s house. So neat to see the next generation develop friendship with each other. I only wish Marguerite’s children were here, too!


With Alex and baby Abby at the restaurant for lunch


A bit out of order…catching up with Steve.


A new friend for Katie at Rosa and Dan’s house?


So much history here… As our lives continue to go in various directions, I hope we will never forget the bond that we have had. One thing we learn as we get older is that friendship takes nourishment and a desire to include one another in our everyday lives. It was so much easier in high school, being in the same classes and extracurriculars, and it is sometimes too easy now to get caught up in our day to day worlds sometimes. I wonder what our 30s will bring as we navigate careers, marriages, and children… And I hope for more opportunities of time with them, a chance to build memories that will take us solidly into our next 20 years of friendship. “Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried/Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel.” (Hamlet)


At Tin Roof Bistro in Manhattan Beach






I love all of the kiddos…


I was enjoying conversation with Carol in this picture.


Yes, Eric does have a butter knife. He was working on cutting an appetizer.


Sweet Katie.